I've been on dates with over two dozen different woman since being separated. I find that whether the conversation turns to my history, and a revisiting of my reflections, depends quite a bit on who I am talking to.

I find if we are both laughing, having fun, and just enjoying learning about each other, it does not go there. But when we really have nothing to talk about, and there is no authentic fun going on, or if someone just points the conversation in the wrong direction, it just goes there. I really love ladies who are not interested in my past, don't ask about it, and just focus on enjoying the present moment; which helps me do the same.

That aside, the general theme of the article that we come to dating in middle-age with a bag of resentments does ring true. Like I said, there are moments where we can just get lost in enjoying each other's company, but the bottom-line is many of us did what we thought were the right things for many decades and then were disappointment.

Woman as well as men, often seem to not grasp the role they played in failed relationships.

Overall, good article. Thanks.